113 - The Frum Women's Insight Panel #1 - "How to be more accepting of my husband"

<p>Yesterday we kicked off the very first live Q&A on The Frum Women's Insight Panel!</p> <p>Our topic was "How to be more accepting of my husband." Our panelists were Chana Eisenstein, Kayla Levin, and Rivka Slatkin.</p> <p>Here are some of the questions that our panelists answered:</p> <p>1) How can I be accepting of my husband but also want him to change? Can I do both?</p> <p>2) My husband is an incredible, super-special person. He suffered emotional abuse and neglect as a child and only recently began a journey of diagnosis and treatment for ADHD. He has grown immensely; but the more he grows, the more it becomes clear that certain obstacles - like PTSD and ADHD - will never go away. It is sometimes hard for me to accept that even with therapy (forever?) and medication, he might always be mistrustful, forgetful, a mess, have low self-esteem, hard to find a job, etc. I understand getting through “hard times,” but how do I accept a “hard life” without feeling resentful?</p> <p>3) My husband suffers from low self-esteem and a very poor self-image. How can I show my husband that I accept him if he doesn’t accept himself? His inner voice is so much louder than me; on top of that, my “love language” is NOT words of affirmation and I find it difficult to communicate this message to him.</p> <p>4) I am intuitive and creative, and my husband is black and white, and I'm very sensitive to his energy which often shuts me down. The problem is that he also is home a lot. How can I be more accepting in a way that doesn't affect me?</p> <p>5) I want to be more accepting of my husband but it's hard because I carry the financial burden and all kid-related responsibilities. He is clueless about these things and in his own world. So I get stressed and anxious and wish it could be different. I don't know how to be more accepting.</p> <p>6) How can I be accepting of my husband's parenting style when it is so different than mine, specifically in the way we speak to the kids. I deeply believe that children's self-esteems need to be