021: Intimate Partner Violence - An African Man's Story of Abuse w/ Anonymous aka Olufemi (Part 2)

<p>Today we will be talking about intimate partner violence, which is a very important topic of discussion in the African community. Through the years, abuse has been somewhat normalized in relationships and in our community. There have been many examples of abuse that have led to a loss of life.<br /> <br /> Some 1.2 million women and 700,000 men experience domestic violence each year, according to the <a href= "https://www.mentalhealth.org.uk/statistics/mental-health-statistics-domestic-violence"> Office for National Statistics</a>. <br /> <br /> According to a <a href= "https://www.domesticviolenceintervention.net/wp-content/uploads/2016/08/Africa.DV_.Programs.pdf"> study</a>, Africa has some of the highest prevalence rates of intimate partner violence in the whole world.<br /> <br /> Today I will be talking to an old friend who has chosen to be anonymous and will go by the name Olufemi - Femi for short. He chose to become anonymous because there are children involved. </p> <p><strong>[00:01 – 09:45] After The Violence</strong></p> <ul> <li>Femi is Hospitalized</li> <li>He goes to court for a protective order</li> <li>Looking back at events that took place</li> </ul> <p><strong>[09:45 - 30:54] The Process of Divorce</strong></p> <ul> <li>The court hearings for protection order</li> <li>What led to divorce</li> <li>Femi's then-wife abandons the kids</li> <li>They separate for one year</li> <li>Femi delays in filing for divorce</li> </ul> <p><strong>[30:54 – 1:05:2] The Adultery Part & The Community Response</strong></p> <ul> <li>Femi shares the story of adultery</li> <li>How the community reacted</li> <li>The advice from friends</li> <li>How the church reacted</li> </ul> <p><strong>[1:05:2 – 1:15:55] Lessons & Closing Remarks</strong></p> <ul> <li>Lessons He Learnt</li> <li>What men must know about intimate partner violence</li> <li>Closing Remarks </li> </ul> <p><strong>Tweetable Quotes:</strong></p> <p><em>“If someone is not willing to change, no amount of good knowledge can help such a person.” – Olufemi</em