Mira Kirshenbaum | The Biggest Myth About Arguments & How to Deal With Finances In A Relationship

In today’s episode, we cover relationships and conflict resolution with Mira Kirshenbaum. Mira is the author of eleven books, the co-founder and clinical director of The Chestnut Hill Institute in Boston, an internationally recognized center for research and psychotherapy for couples, families and individuals, and has been a workshop leader and trainer for medical professionals at Harvard Medical School and other institutions.   Despite what Hollywood tells us, relationships are not easy and are not always pleasant, so why do couples fight, how do we resolve conflicts in a way that both partners can be satisfied with the outcome, and how do we reframe love in the 21st century to be a reasonable goal we can work toward?   What to Listen For   Why Do Couples Fight - 1:57    Why do couples fight and what do you need to stop doing to prevent future fights? Why do we imitate the power moves of our parents in our own relationships? What does it mean to feel disempowered in a relationship? How do people use distance to hurt their significant other and what can we do to overcome that?     The 8 Core Experiences of Love - 11:00 (starts with AJ saying, “When we think about fights…”)   What should you do everyday to build and maintain healthy relationships with the people you care about? What does it mean to be fair in a relationship? What question should you ask to find out how best to support your significant other when you’re not sure what to do? What does it mean to show respect for your significant other? Is passion a one time thing in a relationship, or is it cyclical?   Conflict Resolution in Relationships - 28:30 (starts with AJ saying, “Now we had Annie Duke on our show…”) How can you use quantification to solve arguments in your relationships? What is the 1-2-3 method and how can you use it to stop arguments from blowing up? What questions can you ask your partner to better understand their concerns about an issue you two are facing? What are the 2 magic questions you