EP84 | My past is affecting my ability to find the support that I crave this pregnancy

<p>In this episode, I am answering a question that a listener sent in recently.&nbsp;</p> <p>Thanks so much for sending in your question. It's an important topic that I wanted to speak to as I have been in this position before - and it can feel quite powerless being in a position of vulnerability and not feeling safe to trust people.</p> <p>I'd like to know how you can find trust again in your instincts. I had a lot of failed support that I paid for last year. Every single person let me down. I'm pregnant now and I don't trust anyone.</p> <p><strong>My past is affecting my ability to find the support that I crave during this pregnancy.</strong></p> <ol> <li>Look at the past times and try and understand why those people let you down.</li> </ol> <p>Quite often it feels personal because it is personal. It's happening to us and people let us down - but often it isn't about us at all. &nbsp;People are often focused on their own chaos and lives.</p> <p><strong>I discuss the different groups of support people and what can be stopping them from showing up in a way &nbsp;you need &amp; deserve:</strong></p> <ul> <li>The System - Doctors, Midwives &amp; medical staff&nbsp;</li> <li>Doulas &amp; birthworkers</li> <li>Homebirth Midwives&nbsp;</li> <li>Family &amp; friends&nbsp;</li> </ul> <p><strong>How we can call in the right support:</strong></p> <ol> <li>Set brave intentions and send out the calling - the energy into the world that you want</li> <li>Make sure the person you choose is someone you align with and feels right - listen to your intuition and don't silence that voice when it speaks to you</li> <li>Set reasonable expectations for people</li> <li>Call in your support circle - a lot of the time you need a circle of support - not one person can support you - you need a safe circle of support</li> <li>See if you can see testimonials or speak to others who have worked with that person - find out what you liked about working with that person.</li> <li>Hire someone like me to work on being your supp