Ep161: Managing Limiting Beliefs, Imposter Syndrome, and all the “Chatter” In Our Heads | with Ethan Kross

<blockquote> <p>“People are embarrassed to even articulate out loud what they say to themselves silently.”<br /> - Ethan Kross</p> </blockquote> <p>Do you ever wonder why some people excel under intense pressure while other people fold? How is that an Olympic athlete can train for four years honing their skills with exact precision and in the final moment make a crucial mistake to blow their shot at gold?</p> <p>Maybe you've had the experience of preparing for hours for your dream job interview and when you finally sat down to talk, you froze up and forgot everything you prepared. Or maybe you had an argument with a friend, co-worker, or partner and said something you instantly regretted, then spending the rest of the night ruminating over what you did wrong and wondering why no one likes you? Or how about that noise you hear late at night as you lie in bed, convincing yourself that it's a serial killer coming to murder you?</p> <p>If you've experienced any of these situations or anything similar, then you've experienced “chatter.” Chatter is the dark side of our inner voice (and trust me, we all have it). My guest today is bestselling author <a href= "https://www.ethankross.com/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener"><strong>Ethan Kross</strong></a>, a Professor of Psychology and Management, father of 2, and the bestselling author of <a href="https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0525575235" target="_blank" rel="noopener"><strong><em>Chatter: The Voice in Our Head</em>, </strong></a><em><a href= "https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/0525575235" target="_blank" rel= "noopener"><strong>Why it Matters and How to Harness It</strong></a>.</em> He defines chatter as "getting stuck in a negative thought loop" and it is often the reason behind our successes or failures in high pressure situations.</p> <p>Chatter is what feeds into imposter syndrome, limiting beliefs, and the worries that we consciously and unconsciously obsess over. The good news is there are tools for harnessing your chatter (and even making it your ally). In this