Dear Krachel: How do I let myself want more than I think I deserve?

<p class="p1">Welcome to another episode of Dear Krachel, our monthly advice segment where we answer listener questions about life, career, relationships, existential angst, and anything that helps you become a more whole, fulfilled version of yourself.</p> <p class="p2"> </p> <p class="p1"><strong>This month we answered questions from:</strong></p> <p class="p2"> </p> <ul class="ul1"> <li class="li1"><span class="s2">Dee, who recently went through a tough breakup with someone that she thought was “it.” She’s someone who’s cautious and does her vetting before getting into a relationship, so she’s upset about not seeing this coming. <strong>How can she trust herself in the future when she gets a “knowing” about someone?</strong></span></li> <li class="li1"><span class="s2">Chelsea, who serves us up a philosophical question about … questions. Namely, how to ask good ones. <strong>If finding life’s big answers depends on asking good questions, then how do we ask questions that actually get us somewhere, rather than spiraling into anxiety loops and making no progress?<span class= "Apple-converted-space"> </span></strong></span></li> <li class="li1"><span class="s2">Serena, who’s been looking for a job for a while, and recently got offered an 8/10. It’s OK, but it’s not exactly what she wants … and now she feels guilty for saying no. <strong>How can she move past the fear that it’s ungrateful if she doesn’t accept something less than what she really wants?</strong></span></li> </ul> <p class="p3"> </p> <p class="p4">And come <a href= "https://clarityonfire.com/let-myself-want-more-deserve" target= "_blank" rel="noopener"><span class="s3">leave a comment</span></a> after you’ve listened to share how our advice for these listeners resonated with you!</p> <p class="p2"> </p> <p class="p1">LISTEN TO THESE EPISODES NEXT</p> <p class="p2"> </p> <p class="p5"><span class="s4"><a href= "https://clarityonfire.com/intuition-or-fear/" target="_blank" rel= "noopener">Side Chat: Honing your intuition (& knowing when it’s really fe