113 Making Sense of Your Story: Why It’s Necessary to Name Intentionality Part 1

<p>Naming intentionality matters because if you are unsure about whether or not the other person <em>meant</em> to hurt you, it will be very difficult for you to heal from your wounds. This is because you can’t heal until your brain has constructed an <em>accurate</em> and <em>coherent</em> autobiographical narrative of your life: the narrative has to be <em>true</em> and it has to <em>make sense</em>. Drawing from David Schnarch’s book Brain Talk, I explain two important concepts: mind-mapping and traumatic mind-mapping. Mind-mapping refers to your ability to map out the thoughts and feelings of another person. Traumatic mind-mapping is a collapse of your brain’s normal mind mapping abilities that occurs <em>when you are mind-mapping someone and what you see is</em> <em>terrible</em><em>.</em></p>