The Shakiness of the Long Bag

Hello Hedge Schoolers,<br/><br/>Latent within every relationship is the possibility of it ending. The bridge built between two people can and will crumble. The hopeless romantic within hopes the deathbeds of old ears hear these words but the reality is that the work is the work is the work. Relationships fracture over time. The complexity of life and the intertwining of human needs, wants and desires will always apply pressure. While many work at collaboratively patching the holes. Many don't. Many see their own b******t reflected in the tears of a lover. Many can't hold that, so don't. Relating to another human being is hard f*****g work. It comes with all the colours of the rainbow. A bounty of beauty. A torrent of hate. And everything in between. <br/><br/>I'm writing this week in honour of my wife. A fierce lioness who shoulders the weight of our world.<br/><br/>I'm a work in progress.<br/><br/>I can have my head up my own ass.<br/><br/>I can take the easy road.<br/><br/>I can half-do things.<br/><br/>I can be passive-aggressive. <br/><br/>I can shun responsibility.<br/><br/>I take full responsibility for all of these things and more. <br/><br/>A work in progress<br/><br/>My relationship continues to be the most amazing learning experience of my life. A mirror with magic in the reflection. Tension. Love. Truth. Powerful ingredients for a great relationship, generating the required pressure for transformation. Dark nights of the soul can threaten the end. It has to be that way. But the sun does rise the next with magnificent splendor if we trust and surrender. The bridge between two souls stronger. Investing in each other requires deep surrender. A willingness to give up positioning in exchange for unity. To lean into each other to create a bridge that will hold. Lockdowns have pummelled the bridges between many of us, causing the patched-over fractures to bear often insurmountable damage. The rise in domestic violence is a horrible truth that all is not well under the roofs of many. Relating requires work. In