The Dangers of Self-Sacrifice | ’ask dorothy’ | A Real Life Client Story | The WISDOM podcast | S3 E32

'ask dorothy' <p style="text-align:center;">The Dangers of Self-Sacrifice | A Real Life Client Story</p> The WISDOM podcast  Season 3  Episode 32 <p style="text-align:center;">- The path of healing begins when you reclaim your power.  -</p> <p style="text-align:center;">💜</p> <p> </p> <p>How do you reteach someone how not to mistreat you? You begin with defining the boundaries that are safe as you uphold self-respect and as you do your best to maintain these boundaries whilst being kind yet firm.</p> <p> </p> <p>Carrie Anne decided that she would also schedule a session with each of her daughters’ therapists so that the therapists could hear and understand the ‘whole story’ and likely aspects that had not been shared in order that an honest and vulnerable dialogue could become the healing that everyone needed.</p> <p> </p> <p>Lily and Marian would need to first want to give up their propensity to punish their Mother for what is not her fault. Their life – as it is – would need to be their responsibility.</p> <p> </p> <p>When you sacrifice any aspect of yourself (your needs and happiness) for anyone, you are removing the power that you hold for making yourself happy. Rather you are giving others power over you that they likely will not use well.</p> <p> </p> <p align="center">No one can decide what is best and right for you. Self-sacrifice can never redeem what has previously happened nor make up for past trauma and abuse.</p> <p> </p> <p>Carrie Anne and I would need to work on her development of self – of how she would live true to herself and be the one version of her – the best version – in all of her relationships – never again allowing anyone to decide for her. </p> <p>Never again allowing others desires and wants ~ to supersede or influence what was right for her.</p> <p> </p> <p>Carrie Anne’s daughters had been given the authority that her husband once held and this created an unbalance of power and a continued loss of self that spiralled outward reinforcing her feelings of being unloved and undeserving of