238: Unmotivated Partners - What To Do? - with Pete Pearson

<p><span style="font-weight: 400;">When your partner is unmotivated to change and has resorted to stonewalling - or blaming everything on you - what can you do? If you’re a therapist working with a couple in this situation, you’ll learn some valuable ways to directly address this issue and change the dynamics. In today’s episode, we have a return visit from Peter Pearson. He is a co-founder, with Ellyn Bader, of The Couples Institute, one of the leading centers for training couples therapists and helping people find practical solutions to relationship issues. Their book “Tell Me No Lies” describes how to create a culture of honesty in your relationship (and why that’s so important) - while their work on the Developmental Model of relationships gives deep insight into why we do what we do. Today you’ll learn some specific ways to shake things loose when your partner is unmotivated to change (or *you* are).</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Visit</span> <a href= "https://www.neilsattin.com/institute"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">neilsattin.com/institute</span></a> <span style="font-weight: 400;">to join Pete Pearson’s and Ellyn Bader’s free webinars on how to use Confrontation in therapy!</span></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">And as always, I’m looking forward to your thoughts on this episode and what revelations and questions it creates for you. Please join us in the</span> <a href= "https://www.facebook.com/groups/RelationshipAliveCommunity/"><span style="font-weight: 400;"> Relationship Alive Community on Facebook</span></a> <span style= "font-weight: 400;">to chat about it!</span></p> <p><strong>Sponsors:</strong></p> <p><span style="font-weight: 400;">Want something new to entertain you?</span> <a href="https://acorn.tv/"><span style= "font-weight: 400;">Acorn TV</span></a> <span style= "font-weight: 400;">is a commercial-free streaming service that’s rooted in British television. It’s home to sophisticated and artful storytelling with top-rated mysteries, dramas that pull you in, heart