What We Really Want in Bed: Understanding the Sexual Desires of Men and Women

What do we really want in bed—and why are we so afraid to ask for it?In this groundbreaking and compassionate guide, psychotherapist Dr. Richard L. Travis invites readers into the most intimate corners of human connection: where desire, vulnerability, identity, and pleasure meet. Drawing from decades of clinical experience, real-life stories, and the latest research,What We Really Want in Bedhelps men, women, and couples navigate the complex emotional and psychological terrain of sex in today’s world.Whether you're single, married, healing from shame, exploring new identities, or trying to rekindle a spark that feels lost—this book offers more than techniques. It offers truth.Inside, you'll discover:How male and female desire actually work (hint: not how Hollywood says they do)The emotional dynamics that fuel or block intimacyHow shame, trauma, aging, and cultural myths shape our sexualityTools to talk about sex with less fear and more confidenceThe power of erotic blueprints, responsive desire, and fantasy mappingComplete with a companion workbook and multimedia resources, this is your practical, affirming roadmap to better sex—and deeper connection.Because what you want in bed is not too much. It's human. And it matters.Read more